Vulnerably beautiful Adokiye Kyrian, peace ambassador, architect, singer and
actress, made a big fuss sometime last year, when she revealed to Potpourri
that she was still a virgin. Not a big deal, but in this fast and furious era where
youngsters want to get high, real fast and be done with so much is so little
time, it is nothing but a big deal.
We got talking again on Tuesday on a
lighter note, and she was joking about
bringing a groom price for one of my
dashing sons. Jokingly too, I returned that
she must have to bring me a jet to give
the hand of my son to her in marriage
(remember, she said the man who will
deflower her will have to buy her mum a
private jet she promised her). Then, with a
tone that had a bit of seriousness about it
she dropped the bomb.
“I will let that go soon (meaning her virginity)”, she said, with a wry smile.
When I heaved a sigh of surprise, she surprised me more by adding “ what’s
the point of having all the endowment and not enjoying life as a woman. Plus,
people are beginning to call me names, like mumu and all. I have been thinking
lately, you know, though my mind is not made up yet”.
Knowing I have been gifted a good story, I probed further and asked if she truly
misses anything as a virgin. She will be 24/25 this year.
“Yes, I guess I’m human” she shot back. “Don’t get it twisted. Sometimes I feel
like I’m missing but each time I want to make that move, I get scared because I
know once it’s gone, it’s gone”.
Then I suspected this girl must have found a guy she doesn’t want to lose
because of sex. I hit her with the question.
“They always push” she replied. “Push, push and push. Don’t you know men?
Aren’t you a man?” she wanted to know and I reminded her that I am. “Man,
I’m so scared” she continues as if talking to herself this time. “But why not? I
came with it I may leave with it”. I told her that would be an awful thing to do,
afterall God gave it to us to enjoy. She cut me short and replied, “But God
didn’t make it compulsory for me to share it with someone. Don’t forget about
the Reverend Sisters. You know I’m a staunch Catholic. I was almost going to
be one anyways during high school days. I grew up around Reverend Sisters
and at some point I told my mum I wanted to become one”