WOMEN: what men want
1. Men want a fun and exciting companion.
There are things that a man will discuss with a woman if the level of
communication and trust has been established. Sharing activities can
also be a healthy way to build relationships. If women spend more
time with men sharing some activities each week they are likely to
get along better with the men
in their lives.
2. Men want consistent, frequent, passionate
sex (or hot sex). Men get turned on by different things that a woman
does. A man wants his partner to be a bit of a lusty
animal in bed - thus the high subscription rate among men to
magazines that are somewhat exploitive of women. A woman that
delivers in the bedroom will, more often than not, get what she
wants from her man - a dedicated lover. I hate to be crass, but it's
reality. Smart women look at this and
figure out how to use it to build mutual happiness. A woman who is
more vocal in bed, and carries the attitude that goes with it, is likely
to get a lot back
from her man, as well. On the other hand, a woman who is frigid
and uses sex as a manipulation tool is likely to receive games right
back. The main thing isn't so much experimentation though -
please don't
take this the wrong way. It is about creativity,
bonding, and emotional intimacy.
Men bond through being physically connected. The act of making
love is how a man feels that you love
him. Withhold this, and you are withholding your love, to a man.
Men want to connect with the physical act, because the act of release
during sex is how a man most feels connected to you. It is the
"feeling of being connected" he most seeks.
3. Men want to share meals with you,
especially when you prepare the meal.
A man who expects his woman to cook every meal might improve
his relationship by offering to clean- up dishes or surprising his
woman with a home- cooked meal of his own. Men appreciate
when you FEED THEM. Maybe it sounds old-fashioned, but the
old adage, "the best way to a man's heart is through his stomach"
has some value.
4. Men want you to support them in their work and help boost their
confidence.
Note: Women who understand men do not put them down.
Women who understand this ask men questions about their career
and let them know "you can do it, baby!" In return, women will find
their man equally supportive because she understands him and
does things to let him know she's a believer. Call it a case of mutual
admiration.
5. Men want you to look great
When I write that men want you to look great it means simply this:
look the very best you can for your size, type, and build. Then carry
it with confidence. Ever wonder why men groan when their woman
asks, "honey, does this my butt look fat?" If she is confident, she
already knows and doesn't have to ask.
Looking great does not mean you have to be a trophy doll. But if
you think men don't choose their partners largely by the way they
look, think again. Men want women to look great! It may even be a
double- standard. Looking great does not mean you have to
look like superstars. When we love our body, why shouldn't our
partner love it, too? Even if you are "working on it," sending loving
thoughts to your body will help you achieve
physical goals and happiness more than sending out negative
thoughts. Our confidence is attractive to most people, and it counts
in looks, too. Confidence
is sexy. And men love sexy women.
For women who don't have perfect model bodies, I had a woman
ask me this recently and all I can say is : life: "Do the very best
you can with what you've got." I think you'll find a man who will
appreciate that effort you put out.
6. Men want you to listen to them and treat
them with respect. I've recently heard a woman say that she felt
men were not respecting her, but then a few moments later used
the phrase "well you men ..." in her speech. This indicates a
tendency towards negatively judging men.
Sometimes, we get back what we give out, and what we say to
each other DOES matter.
7. Men need you to give them private time to
be left alone, to spend on hobbies and sports,
and to spend time with other men.
Some men need a few minutes to unwind when they walk in the
door before sharing the day's challenges.
Some women need this space, too, but I've noticed that most
women I've dated prefer to launch into the daily review, while I'd
really just like a hug, a kiss, and then some quiet space for a few
minutes to unwind prior to reviewing the day together. Do what
works best for your relationship. I find that a sincere and
compassionately deep hug upon greeting is nice, followed by a
thirty-second kiss sometime in the next
few minutes, helps re-establish that "connected" feeling. Did I just
say 30 second kiss? Yes, I did. Why?
Because a peck kiss does nothing to neither establish nor maintain
romance. It requires a longer kiss to do that. So, use your kissing to
your advantage and keep the passion alive between you! I
remember a friend telling me about his girlfriend, how she tried to
be his "Ms. Right" by becoming the
woman he wanted, rather than developing some interests of her
own.
MEN: What men want
1. Women want you to love to cuddle with them (you know you
want it).
2. Women want you to love their friends (but
try not to favor the pretty, slutty one).
3. Women want you to be good with money (please pay your bills
on time).
4. Women DO NOT want you to be a mama's
boy (love your mom but always love them more).
5. Women want you to make them feel safe (hold them, protect
them, kill the spider in the bathroom).
6. Women want you to take charge (don't ask
Them where they want to eat, tell them where you're taking them
to).
7. Women want you to put them in their place (women know they
can be annoying, just tell them when to shut up).
8. Women want you to challenge them (if you
are too nice, they will take advantage).
9. Women want you to support their career (some of them strive
for more than popping out a baby from in between their legs...albeit
a huge undertaking, so don't send them nasty e-mail).
10. Women want you to clean up after yourself
(and put away your dirty underwear).
11. Women want you to spend time with them (but leave them
alone when they first walk through the door).
12. Women want you to take care of your body and look good (but
a tummy and love handles are acceptable).
13. Women want you to be funny (this turns them on more than
anything, and if you crack a good joke and make them laugh, they
will sleep with you).
14. Women want you to put them first in
everything (they are number 1, end of story).
15. Women DO NOT want you to cheat on them (or trust me, they'll
take half your assets or cheat and hook-up with half of your guy
friends as revenge).
16. Women want you to listen and respect
them (the story of how their best friend started up on a new form of
birth control is super important to them).
17. Women want you to love them (tell them, show them, write it
to them, let them feel the love).
18. Women want you to ravish them (but
remember to kiss beforehand).
It seems like men and women want similar things, but judging from
this personal list, women want more. And if you always remember
that women want more, and tend to deserve it....you'll probably
find
yourself in a very happy relationship.
by ROTMANLUV 2023-07-08, 17:34
